As you guys can see, I'm in a writing mood.
Anyway, got my New York Magazine today. On the cover is a woman over 50 and pregnant. The cover line says, "Is She Just Too Old For This?"
I flip to the article and see the headline: Parents of A Certain Age. Right above, there's a question — "Is there anything wrong with being 53 and pregnant?" (Read the story here.)
hmmm.
I love my twin nephews and my niece. I LOVE being around them and miss them when I'm not with them. They bring a sense of JOY in my life and just the thought of them makes me SMILE. (Adam saw the nail polish on my toes and innocently asked, "does that hurt?" - lol) But as I get closer to 40, I wonder: Do I want to be a mom - NOW?
I see how my sister juggles three kids and a job — and man, it's hard work. It takes a lot of strength, energy, patience and selflessness. I just get tired thinking about all the stuff she does. It's a big sacrifice. You no longer just have yourself to think about.
So, I have to confess, right now, at this moment, I like my freedom. I can go wherever I want when I want (money and time — and deadlines — permitting) and do what I want to do without worrying about the safety and well-being of another person. I see how my sister is limited in what she can do and where she can go because she can't find a babysitter for the twins or Gabrielle, my niece. She has to take off work when one of the kids is sick and I can't tell you the last time she was able to sit peacefully and observe a church service (those twins are something in church). It can be daunting at times (my sister has called me in tears).
I have to be honest: Do I want to deal with all that at 50? (when other moms are shipping their kids off to college)
But all around me, I see women choosing motherhood — by any means necessary. And they are HAPPY.
So what do you think?
Is 50 too old to START a family?
Would you want to be 53 and pregnant?
For you, is there a cut-off age of when you want to have children? 45? 50? 60?
What are some factors that you will take in consideration in deciding whether or not to have children after age 40?
Let me know your thoughts.
2 comments:
I don't think it's any of my business when and how other folks decide to start or grow their families. I think if you are healthy, have support, plenty of love and your finances are in order (and frankly these women have resources, that's why they are able to do this), go for it.
I would not want to be 53 and pregnant. The cutoff age for me is 45.
Emmy-Award winning Gigantic! Productions wants to learn about your experiences either trying to get pregnant over the age of 45 or being a parent to an infant or toddler if you are 45 or older. If you are loving life as an older parent or finding your age holds you back…or maybe both, we want to hear your story.
If you want to be considered for a nationally televised documentary, contact casting@gigantic.tv. Please include your age, location, phone number, photo and a summary of what life is like for you and why you started a family later in life.
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