Recently I had a conversation with a friend about the Rihanna and Chris Brown
situation.
She said, "We don't know what Rihanna did."
It reminded me of the movie, "What's Love Got To Do With It," based on the life
of legendary singer Tina Turner. Tina was trying to explain to her mother, that
Ike (Turner) was beating her. Her mother said, "Well, honey, what did you do?"
My friend is a very smart and accomplished woman, but yet she thought it was okay for Chris Brown to hit Rihanna if she had hit him first or had done some terrible thing to make him angry. She said, "What if he was defending himself?"
Her point was that if a woman is hitting, beating on a man, a man should have a right to "defend" himself or the woman should just keep her hands to herself.
Huh?
In essence, she was advocating domestic violence.
To somehow insinuate that Rihanna deserved to be beat because she may have done something to provoke Chris Brown is just utterly ridiculous to me. But my good friend
said that this was the prevailing sentiment among young Black girls who were polled.
wow. That's sad.
In my humble opinion, a woman doesn't deserve to be beat - plain and simple. If a man is in a situation where he feels things may get out of hand, walk away. This may be easier said than done. But if a relationship brings out the worst in you, it may not be the best thing for you.
Love is hard. But Love shouldn't hurt you.
What do you think? Do you think a man should "defend" himself if a woman hits him first? In what situations do you think it's okay for a man to hit a woman?
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It's never ok for a man to hit a woman. He should walk away. However, I witnessed domestic violence on Sunday while at the Safeway in our neighborhood. This girl was slapping this guy. I felt bad for him. Yes, for him. He hadn't done anything to her. She was yelling and cursing him out all in front of a child while they were in the parking lot. No one said anything except later when this elderly woman said something to the girl and the girl rolled her eyes at the woman and walked away. The girl and guy looked to be in their early to mid 20s. The guy never hinted at hitting the girl back. I'm sure if he did, folks would have run to HER rescue. I applaud him for not retaliating. That's what a MAN should do. Not hit. Women should NEVER hit a guy either. It goes both ways, but sadly there is a double standard.
hell effin' no, a man shouldn't hit a woman. under ANY circumstances. there was nothing she did to provoke being beaten like that. nothing she COULD do. and be clear: this wasn't the first time he's hit her. and given that they're back together already, it won't be the last. i hope she gets out for good before it's too late.
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